Clinging is to Cleave as Letting go is to Leave

Adam recognizes the awesomeness of what God had done and although we know from the creation story, Adam had no mother or father, as we know it. Yet his committed response to Eve, was a God response. Let's see what he declared. 

"Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh." Genesis 2:24

It's not like Adam, was ungrateful to God. After all God had given him everything he had, the entire earth, and all therein, and this perfect specimen of a woman. What guy could ever ask for more? And yet somehow, indirectly Adam did. He asked all of mankind, coming forth from him and his woman to leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife. Why was this important to declare? 

I would like to suggest because God placed it in Adam's heart, the desire to abandon self and adjoin to another to become something more. Although sinned had not yet affected Adam and Eve this dying of self was already at work, to become less in order to be more. The leaving and cleaving entail leaving whatever and whomever that would hinder the cleaving mission. The transliteration of the Hebrew word "cleave" is dabag (daw-bak) means to cling, hold fast tightly, to follow closely.  

It was a part of the mystery of marriage. A foreshadowing of what was to become of Christ and the Church as Bride and Bridegroom. Something within Adam recognized that eternal plan. Because from this human relationship and bond we would be able to better understand Christ future plans to die to self Himself as Co- Creator, in order to "wed" the Church to save the loss. God was in fact making provisions long before Adam and Eve fell to sin to give them hope. Ultimately to give us hope. For us to understand Christ's example for us to leave "our" world and cleave to "His" and be at one with His plans.

In order for one to be able to appreciate what God will do in the marriage community, the community need to be prepared to be married to its one and only. To leave in order to cleave. It's pointless, for men to hold on to your mother's hand while adjoining to their wives. Your mother can no longer be your best-friend. I know it seems picture perfect, but it's ungodly. And wives likewise to hold on to their father's while adjoining to their husband's. Daddy is no longer deciding and defending. This is unacceptable to God. Unless, of course your life depended on it, literally. Or it may be that you might have peeps and perpetrators playing that parenting role, even past flings and flames or friends interrupting your blessing. Many have mis-married  or divorced because of people like these. They too must leave. Many family suffer from this epidemic because some vile and wicked jealous tongue said something like, "blood is thicker than water!” But the question is, which quenches your thirst more?

Are you clinging to something that is preventing you to cleave. Leave! Let it go!

That means no back-packing - no back-biting or back-peddling - or backsliding...nor going for sabbaticals.